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If you want to save your marriage, you better be prepared to focus only on how you contributed to the breakup…for now. This isn’t the time to get angry and start blaming. If your response to reading this is “But what about when he/she does……” put your focus back on saving the marriage not on who is at fault. If you have been blowing up and losing your temper, STOP NOW. If you have been critical and complaining.
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If you have been having affairs, STOP NOW. Sounds simple, but for you to really grasp this concept you have to be willing to understand what role you play in the problems your marriage is experiencing. You can’t stop your spouse from leaving, but do not offer to be the one who moves out first.
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Be kind in your refusal but it gets much harder to save the marriage when one of you moves out. However, don’t agree to leave the house if your spouse asks you. This isn’t the time to push for marriage counseling if your partner is resistant to the idea. Their response to your begging is probably going to be “too little too late” and it solidifies their resolve to end the marriage. It NEVER works in your favor! If your spouse says they want out, they may have been mentally preparing themselves for a long time…often years. You may be promising to change everything about yourself they don’t like. In your panic, you may be crying and pleading for them to change their mind. The worst thing you can do at this point is to beg your spouse to stay. What to do when your spouse wants a divorce and you don’t 1. Please understand and remember that these are actions YOU need to take. There are no guarantees, and you have to remember that you cannot control the decisions your partner makes, but I’ve seen amazing things happen when one person in the marriage begins making positive changes. “If you want to try & save your marriage, this is the time for you to start making drastic changes.”